Baby Boomer Dating – Some Things To Be Aware Of

There are those folks who are in the baby boomer category (born between 1946 and 1964) who find themselves not in any romantic relationship for whatever reason. Thirty-three (33%) percent of baby boomers are single. Because of this niche, many online sites and services have sprung up to address this baby boomer dating niche. Baby Boomer Dating

As with any other type of dating services regardless of one’s stage of life, it is important to do your research, take a few precautions, and understand exactly what is going on. So let’s review a few tips to consider before entering the dating arena.

The Online Mystique

For people in the baby boomer category, dating consisted mostly of meeting people at school, social functions, clubs and bars, as well as through family and friends. There were no online options back in the day. Since this is new water to tread, it’s good to get familiar with the environment.  There are definitely a few sharks in these waters.

Research has shown that the numbers of baby boomers entering the dating game are increasing at a rapid pace. This may be because of divorce, separation, or a deceased spouse. There may be a long gap of many years since this transpired, so this whole process can be overwhelming and nerve-racking. But since we as human beings crave companionship, we are willing to take the leap.Online Dating

When younger it was easier to meet people at work, clubs, and bars, but as we age our options tend to narrow. That is why so many boomers have entered the online world of dating. Many have found this to be a very productive and fun way to meet new people.

At the same time, it is important to locate a trustworthy and reliable online dating service. And once registered, it is imperative to be specific about the type of person you desire.

For those who only want to initially dip their toe into the deep end of the online dating game, there are group dating clubs available as well. You get together with like-minded people for various activities of interest such as painting, cooking, fishing, pottery, chess, golf, tennis, bird watching, poetry readings, and other types of gatherings where you mix and get to know each other a bit better. You make friends in a group setting and go at your own pace.

Staying Safe

In this crazy world of ours it is important to stay on your game and put safety first, whether meeting someone online or at the local pub or dress shop. Unfortunately people are not always who they portray themselves to be.

I have spent some time in Asia where there are various services to attract seniors to meet locals for dating and marriage. While there are legitimate firms which provide valid dating services, there are many con artists as well. Many of these inscrutable people are very convincing and believable, and are not shy at all about taking advantage of foreigners with a few bucks in their pockets.

They are much more interested in your money and property than your companionship, so they are full of false promises. Especially if contemplating any type of long-term commitment, it is very wise to do some thorough investigating and obtaining a background check.

Your Time is Valuable

Life is short so it’s important not to waste time with trying to make this dating process work. Trust your intuition and have fun with this process. If you feel something is off with a potential match just move on.

Many of these web sites are fun for socializing, as well as finding people to engage in enjoyable activities including travel. It’s important to have fun with this, and not take this too seriously. If you find yourself getting a bit intense with the process, take a break and just let others approach you off of your profile.

Whatever your parameters are in finding a suitable companion do not deviate and settle for less. Be true to yourself and don’t waste time with people who do not fall within your parameters. Be as choosy as you would like to be as this is your life, and you want your time invested well.

Health and Wellness in a Happy Relationship

When we are happy and surrounded by people whom we like and trust, we feel good. Happy relationships lead to wellness and health. Living from our heart allows us to express our true essence and function at optimal levels. Happy Relationships

Because of this it is critical to be very selective with whom we spend our time. There are a lot of very good single men and women who use online dating, because they simply don’t know where to go or what to do to find a fulfilling relationship with a person with whom they can enjoy spending time.

For the longest time I thought all these online dating sites and personal ads were useless and only for desperate people. Now twelve and a half (12 1/2) years later I am still with the love of my life whom I met on an online site, and it took less than ninety (90) days. In fact I think we corresponded after only thirty (30) days, and met face-to-face a month or two later.

So from personal experience I can tell you that you can meet that special person for whom you are looking, but there are some things of which to be aware. In order to avoid turning your online experience into another version of the bar scene, here are a few ideas to consider.

It’s important to gather the correct knowledge and skills about the dating game, and have the right mindset going in. With these you greatly increase your odds in finding an appropriate person online.

One thing to consider is to create in your mind, and even on paper/word document if you prefer, a detailed description of your ideal mate. You need to know what you want to get what you want. Otherwise you will waste your valuable time chasing after false images. Define the qualities and characteristics in a person which are important to you, so that you will recognize the person who is right for you.

The next point relates back to the safety factor in that it is important to screen people thoroughly. With online dating you are presented with plenty of information to review. Their profile as well as how they interact online and on the phone will provide plenty of clues to discern if they are being authentic, or just trying to play you. When you take the time to do this, folks who misrepresent themselves and are lying will provide plenty of red flags which you will be obvious.

Don’t ignore any red flags because you are enamored by the person. You will be doing yourself a disservice and setting yourself up for much hardship in the long run. When you get real good at screening folks online, the dating game becomes a fun activity.

Finally, as I mentioned before it pays to be choosy. Don’t be afraid to say “next”. Your time and energy is too valuable to waste on people who are not a right fit. This becomes easier when you have a clear picture of the type of person for whom you are looking. Spend your time looking for the right person, and not wasting it on the wrong ones. Just like sales, online dating is a numbers game.

Have Fun and Enjoy the Process

As a baby boomer online dating may or may not be something you wish to pursue. But as there are more and more boomers who are jumping online to find their mates, I look forward that this article provides some insights for those who choose this avenue.

As my motto has been for many years, “if it isn’t fun, don’t do it”, this also applies to the online dating scene. If you are not going to enjoy this way of meeting people, don’t do it. But if you may be interested in other ways of expanding your social circle, this can be a viable alternative given the precautions and tips mentioned above.

No matter what our age, it can be a challenge meeting new people with whom to develop various types of relationships. As we age the social scene can seem even more challenging. I look forwar that if you do choose online dating that you have a very fun and worthwhile experience.

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Enjoy the Process,

Joseph

8 Replies to “Baby Boomer Dating – Some Things To Be Aware Of”

  1. Hi, I enjoyed your post.  Two things jumped out at me when reading it.  Stay Safe for obvious reasons!  And have fun and enjoy the process.  Life is to short to not have a good time.  Might as well get out there and have a good time with some good fun loving people.  🙂  Cheers

    1. Thanks Robb.  Appreciate your comments.  Yes life is too short to waste time not doing what brings joy into our lives.  All the Best.

  2. Thanks for posting Joseph. I liked your post. Starting in 2013, I’m on a social networking site because my current situation does not allow me to have any other relationship. I’m married, but it’s not enough just my husband. I’ve been looking for other friends. But 2 of my best online friends have died and it’s hard to start with others. Now I rarely go to the site, although I still have some friends there.

    Carmen

  3. Hi Joseph, 

    Reading this has been quite an eye-opener for me. Online dating has always terrified me, perhaps I have watched too many murder programs on TV but this post has changed my mind somewhat.

    My late mother-in-law once said to me after she was widowed that she would love a companion so that she could talk to a man again and I understood what she meant. We can talk to our girlfriends as we have done over the years but discussing things with a man is a totally different dynamic.

    You are so right in saying that one must be careful as there are many charlatans out there but there are also some great lonely people who also need to have a special person in their life.

    1. Thanks for your comments Jill.  Much appreciated.  Given the proper awareness and precautions online dating can be a very viable alternative in meeting people.

  4. I have always seen online dating as something really interesting I figure that there are people in your city you can meet just go out more often in public places but I guess with the online dating persons talk about themselves letting you know what they are about and what they are looking for I guess because of this half of the work is done it is only a matter of meeting that person who shares the seem interested with you. Thanks so much for sharing.

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