This is a most interesting topic as it lays the foundation for all we do and desire to accomplish in life. Stepping out in any area of our lives requires a specific intention in order for us to arrive at our destination. It sounds simple, but it can be a roadblock for many of us.
Let’s delve into this a bit so that we can be more aware of our thought process around this, which will enable us to decide if we are heading in the right direction or not. Taking steps to succeed will not benefit us unless they are being taken in the right direction.
Defining Our Intention
Without a specific purpose in mind we can spend a lot of time running around in circles. The key word here is “specific”. Sometime we think we know what we want, only to find out later we were chasing false images. It all begins with uncovering our underlying desires.
When we define our intentions, we tell ourselves and others that we are ready to move forward and accept the things we most desire. This type of clarity is responsible for all the synchronicity in life, when things just happen to show up, and we often erroneously label them a coincidence. We have set the intention to succeed. We are ready for new discoveries.
“No one undertakes research in physics with the intention of winning a prize. It is the joy of discovering something no one knew before.” — Stephen Hawking —
They are far from coincidences as we have actually sent out a request and it is being answered. This is all about being in the right mental and emotional space to recognize opportunities when they are presented to us. When our intentions are misaligned and our thought process is off a bit, we can be surrounded by wealth and abundance and not even recognize it.
This reminds me of the story about two little boys. One was put in a room with all the toys he could ever desire, and after a while he was bored, unhappy, and unappreciative of all the good stuff surrounding him. The other boy was put in a room with horse manure, and later when checked on he was happily digging through the manure saying “there must be a pony in here somewhere”. Just a matter of one’s state of mind.
What is It That We Truly Desire?
Once we have set the intention to succeed, we can then define a few things in different areas of our lives which we truly desire. Again, the key word here is being “specific”. When we are specific, we have the clarity which it takes to step out and take some action with confidence. Our desires are then backed with power and energy.
Since we have focused our thoughts and emotions on what we want, it is only a matter of time for them to show up. Regardless of what roadblocks we encounter, we would never think of ever giving up.
Now a big part of this is accepting where we are now, so that we have a good starting point. This requires us to be open and willing to see things as they are, and not how we wish they are or how we are pretending them to be. Facing our strengths and weaknesses, as well as our successes and failures in the present moment, give us the impetus to move forward. If we are not totally accepting of the good and the not so good now, we will not be very accepting of our circumstances when challenges inevitably crop up along the way.
When we assess our present circumstances honestly, we are able to see what we like and for which we are grateful, and also observe areas in which we wish to improve. Again, just this simple process of giving ourselves an honest evaluation, sets the stage for our progress. We now have the fuel to move forward.
Once we are clear on “what” we desire, and also “why” we desire it (this is part of the honest assessment I just mentioned), we can then set a few goals for “how” we are going to get there. This is the practical phase of the process where we plan a few things out, and then implement them. Of course, all is subject to change once we begin and get some real life feedback.
When we make mistakes, this is just the feedback we require to make any needed corrections. Just like flying a plane, which requires continuous adjustments to stay on course, the journey toward our dreams and goals also require constant monitoring and making changes as necessary.
It all starts with the first step.
“Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible. — Tony Robbins —
Once we have our goals in place, which are meaningful to us to the extent that when we even think about them we get excited and passionate, we can then move forward and take some action. We are enlivened not only by the thought of achieving of them, but for the enjoyment of the process of getting there. At this point, we “know” that these are meaningful goals.
With our goals in place we then plan out a strategy of how to arrive. Similar to planning a trip and arranging for our travel and accommodations along the way, we also see our completed objective or destination which is where we desire to go, and then work out what is needed to get there.
Once we have done this, the next step will naturally follow and actually be pretty obvious. It may involve ordering some supplies, making a phone call, or establishing an online hosting account for our website. Whatever it is, we now know how to proceed. Once that step is completed the next step will be apparent and so on. It may not be what we originally planned out, as in the achievement of the previous step, things may have changed up a bit, and we may see a better and different way to approach things.
That’s why it’s so important that our plan is not set in concrete, which allows us the flexibility to mix and match along the way. Each completed step opens up many new opportunities not thought of before.
What About the Resistance that Comes Up?
There isn’t any doubt when we do new things we will be “stepping out” of our comfort zones which may cause us to hesitate. We cannot achieve anything new without learning and doing new things. Some of these will most probably involve a degree of discomfort. As we move along ,we quickly realize that it is not the “doing” of the tasks which creates the discomfort, but it is the overthinking about the details and what we have to do. We set ourselves up for overwhelm and stress.
Resistance will certainly come up, and just as we were brutally honest with ourselves in our prior assessments, we need to allow the resistance to be there so we can “pause and reflect” a moment and feel the resistance, so that it flows through unhindered and dissipates on its own. The worst thing we can do is to resist the resistance. This is when we focus so much of it that we keep it there.
Now the resistance is comprised of fear, doubt, and uncertainty. Once these feelings are confronted, and not ignored by pretending they are not there, we can “feel” them until we realize the only power which they have is what we supply. Once we cut off that supply of energy they disappear. The energy gets cut off when we let go and allow them to be, without focusing on them as if they actually mean something. They are just thoughts and feelings which constantly change.
The thing is not to get so caught up with them that we end up quitting on our dreams and desires. This is using them as an excuse to quit because it seems to make sense to do so at the time. When in fact, we are just focusing in the wrong area, and by changing our focus to our original goals for which we are passionate, we immediately get right back on track.
All of our fear and doubt can be turned around and used in our favor to actually fuel our passions and desires. Every time we move through and accomplish our next step, in spite of any fear or uncertainty, we are further empowered to proceed. That’s why its critical to concentrate on just one step at a time, and build up momentum at our very own speed. Each person is different, and it doesn’t matter how long it takes, just so we get to where we want to go.
When we factor resistance in as part of the journey, it eventually becomes a non factor, because at some point we stop thinking about it and giving it any energy. We just don’t care if it is there or not as we proceed along our path.
Now all we need to do is begin. It doesn’t matter where we are in life in terms of our level of achievement. We begin where we are.
Sometimes when we get stuck, we have to break the next step down to smaller steps until we find one we are “willing” to do. This will help us move through any fears or emotional blocks. Once we find that smaller step and complete it, we have more confidence and energy to keep going. As our momentum builds, things we previously were reluctant to do, get completed quickly and efficiently.
While it may seem overwhelming to complete our entire project, getting one simple step done is doable, and deserves our focus, attention, and acknowledgment when completed. Each step along the way is necessary to our overall objective, and staying present in the moment ensures that we are effective in completing each step to the very best of our ability.
As our journey continues our abilities and confidence grow and expand, so that what earlier may have been quite challenging is now merely a simple task, or as we may refer to as a “no-brainer”.
Whatever our dreams and goals may be, we all have something very special and unique to share. We owe it to ourselves and others to do so. Let’s hold nothing back as we move forward toward our objectives. Stepping out with confidence can only happen when we know what it is we truly desire.
“Show off your own style and uniqueness to stand out. That’s the advice I’d give to people getting started online now.”
Once we get started our own style and uniqueness will lead the way. Do whatever is necessary to take that first step and build up some momentum toward your goals. This is a journey you do not want to miss.
All the very Best to You on your own Individual Journeys to Self Discovery,